“I’ve noticed, that he rides to work earlier than he was supposed to, so he can park his car beside me, and when when I signed out at the end of the work day, he was waiting near my car. He insisted for us to go for coffee but I refused syaing that I’m busy. I’ve also noticed his car more often at my home, and after short time, I’ve figured out that he’s following me. He found all places where my friends live, because it is a small village.”
If you live in Ireland, and you would like to have some contribution in the production of a programme about Martha, than you have such possibility.
We urgently need any video recordings connected to the victims of the accident: Martha and the late Csaba.
Any recordings connected to where Martha lived or where she was working.
Any recordings of meetings in which she participated.
Recordings with the late Csaba would be equally important. All of his workplaces. Relations in his previous workplace. Recordings of his work on any of the cruise ships.
Recordings from the place of accident would be very important. Recordings from before 2013 would allow to asses the quality level of the barriers and the security of the wharf. Current recordings show how thoroughly the wharf was secured after the unfortunate accident.
What about the recordings undisclosed until now?
It’s the best time for sharing them.
Every detail may be very important.
We will be grateful for any shared recording.
All meetings ended with this, because I was in Poland, and after returning to work, on the second year of our acquaintance, innocent jokes started around us. Everyone was laughing when he joked that I will be his wife, but I let it out with my other ear, knowing, that he’s joking. After some time it began to be awkward, because his jokes startes to be less and less funny and pointed individually to coworkers, for example: “Do not stand beside her, do not ever park beside her.”
At work he often liked to start chatting. For the first year everything was calm, and I had friendly relations with him and his brother. We even had coffee and a cake with his brother on his name day (or his brother’s name day, I don’t remember precisely). I visited them three times during the first year, when he asked me to lend him some money, when he needed to repair his car. I was also at his birthday, but only for 15 minutes, because he saw me, and asked me from the balcony to come in, just for a minute.
He was also sometimes assigned by the manager, to explain to me how I am supposed to work, because I was a new employee. He was kind, polite, and patient. When he could, he was giving me and other workers a ride to work, when we were starting on the same hour. We came back from work also together. But before that, at the very beginning, we had a taxi for workers, which was taken away from us. At that time we were all giving each other a ride. To me he was a hard-working, and he didn’t like when someone was lazy. He seemed like a calm man.
I first met him when I started working in the same hotel. We have known each other for two years but it wasn’t a close acquaintance. We were from different environments. He had his colleagues and spent the time with them. We never went together anywhere and there was no romantic or sexual relation between us. For the first year Csaba was courteous man. He had a kind heart when speaking of his family.
We have published Martha’s painting “Fire everywhere around”.
The picture was painted on March 23, 2018 – on fifth anniversary of Csaba Orsos’s death.
Mum had encouraged Martha to paint her feelings.
So she will express her emotions that way.
Martha painted and sent to the family.
With a note “After reading, please throw away this ugly picture, so it won’t be scaring you”.
We have described the picture in one of previous posts.
The painting has something in it.
It expresses something.
We have agreed with Martha to make it public.
Martha gave a title.
She also explained what was on her mind wile painting it:
“Everywhere is full of …, …, … (and here three names in plural come up).
How did it happen, that there are so many unfriendly people around?
Martha holds no grudge towards Csaba.
For his behavior in the car he paid the biggest price.
She regrets very much, that he couldn’t make it to the shore.
If he had survived, he would be the one to be expected to give testimony and explanation of what had happened.
Csaba is dead.
…, …, …
“Fire everywhere around”
A picture painted in different circumstances, fits to feelings of Martha and her family after the unfavorable decision of Supreme Court.
…, …, …, are still triumphant.
One of Irish newspapers, which is reading thoroughly through our sites, in their articles matched Martha’s general mentions to specific inmates.
Will now the newspaper want to establish, whom Martha could have on her mind while painting the picture?
It is welcome to do it.
Or maybe it will make it’s own list of people most… “deserving”?
Martha is such a kind soul, that she often relents.
For peace, often at her expense.
Unfortunately, strong personalities, who sometimes appear around her, with different intentions, use this against Martha.
Will Martha stop to succumb to such extortions?
Will she start to be herself?
Will she start to make decisions according to her own choice and her own good?
The first extortionist was Csaba.
On the unlucky day he forced Martha to drive towards the beach.
He wanted Martha to drive.
Martha didn’t want at first.
She didn’t want to be seen in the car with Csaba… and she started driving.
Then she “stood up”.
She told Csaba, that she’s going home and she will not drive to the beach.
“Standing up” and opposing at this moment led to the tragedy.
And she could not succumb to Csaba’s extortion earlier…
It’s easy to say…
Martha is can’t stop worrying about others.
But maybe she could be… a little bit more resolute…
About the man from other social culture…
Culturally accustomed to male domination…
Where woman has nothing to say…
Where a woman can even be abducted, and she agrees for this…
Maybe Martha could…
If she was less kind…
If she could…