“Who was he for me? – …I’ve noticed… his car more often at my home… I’ve figured out that he’s following me. He found all places where my friends live…” – sixteenth fragment of Martha’s book

“I’ve noticed, that he rides to work earlier than he was supposed to, so he can park his car beside me, and when when I signed out at the end of the work day, he was waiting near my car. He insisted for us to go for coffee but I refused syaing that I’m busy. I’ve also noticed his car more often at my home, and after short time, I’ve figured out that he’s following me. He found all places where my friends live, because it is a small village.”

Difficult meeting of Martha “with PAST” – …for the FUTURE?

December was promising to be very emotional for Martha.
There were supposed to be two Christmas meetings: 1. Alternatives to Violence Project Chritmas Dinner (it was held without Martha’s participation) and 2. Annual dinner for “lifers” with their closest ones.
Additionally Martha made some changes to her visitors list.
Temporarily (until end of January 2019) she removed three people from the list to make place for new 3 people, who asked for possibility to meet Martha.
First is Marcin Gromiec (we have published the relations from the meeting with Martha and the “plight before and after”)
Next two people are Martha’s former friends: Anna and Katarzyna.
Martha was wondering if she should consent to their visit.
She wondered if she is ready.
Many years had passed… But wounds remain…
After consulting the family, Martha agreed to those visits.

Everyone is making mistakes, more or less painful.
But if someone reaches with initiative – then everyone deserves a chance…

On Saturday, January 5, 2019, at 3 p.m., there was a meeting after many years.
Martha was visited by her old friend – Anna (earlier Martha received a letter from Anna).
It was a difficult meeting.
It began with welcome and with words “I’m sorry” from the mouth of old friend.
Those words, “I’m sorry”, fell about three times.
It was an honest talk. Face to face…
Calm exchange of views, and talking about everything that hurt before and still hurts.
Martha was calm during the talk.
She saw, that it is hard for an old friend.
It wasn’t easy for Martha also.
Maybe this wasn’t making it easy talk for each other, but it’s important, that such meeting and such talk even happened.
… it will be easier for everyone…
… and we will see what will happen next…

We thank for that meeting…
“No one is without a sin”, but the worst thing is holding to wrong behavior.
We thank for “breaking”,  for coming, for overcoming own fears.
Such action needed much strength.
We notice that and we appreciate.
Maybe some role had Martha’s old friend’s family in this…
Maybe a change happened…
It’s possible, that earlier advice of the family to not step forward, were replaced by advice like “It shouldn’t be this way”…
Maybe it’s an example, that you need only one person to break something, bu to fix it – many people are needed…

Of course one visit will not wipe out many things and many years…
Through these years Martha’s true friends could do very much…
…and they are real support for Martha…
But that’s a start…
And a pattern in some way…
There are many, many more people who should come…
Maybe it’s not about coming itself, but about an appropriate action…
…or a change of previous actions…
…or starting to act at all, when one stood on the sidelines…

Will you change in time?
Will you make it to tell that to Martha?
Will you make it to visit Martha while she’s still in Ireland?
How many years do you need?…

Highly recommended

Summary of 2018 – a failure, a success, an unknown

We could write a lot about 2018.

We will limit to 3 categories:

1. Failure
The main failure is that Martha is still in prison.
Engagement of many people, next TV program, few press articles, websites, didn’t make any important change.
Are we anywhere further?
Rather we’ve lost time, health, and more…

2. Success
In the success category we put two situations:

First:
Th…, s… – how to say this politely – la…, let’s use the word: parting with Martha’s former attorney.
The attorney pointed by accusing GARDA.
GARDA, who came to such brilliant conclusions. Criminal Fantasy. Parody, Caricature, Farce, Grotesque  or Drama, or rather Tragedy with elements of Absurd.
Irish “classics”.
We finally managed to part with the attorney effectively only on May 20, 2018.
Way, way to late.
Martha assessed, that it would be better if she defended herself only with family and friends.
In was an extremely and exceptionally effective attorney only in one matter – keeping Martha from changing him.
We don’t understand this.
If you can’t cope, you can’t do it, why do you want to be there at all cost?
In some countries, first instance attorney wouldn’t be able to lead the case in next instances.
If Martha needed an “assurer” that it will be all right, we would hire some good motivational speaker or a psychologist, not an attorney.
But Martha’s former attorney did everything well and he doesn’t understand why this happened.

Second:
It seems that finally Martha, and her family had grown to appropriate actions.
Naive faith in honesty and justice in Ireland have ended.

3. Unknown
Unexpectedly, current Martha’s attorney has been promoted to this category.
After all our peanyas and admiration, a screeching reality comes out.
All may still be good. Maybe…
Although now it will be very, very hard…
Time will tell…
Will current attorney show exceptional engagement and exceptional effectiveness?
After 2019 will we say that this was a SUCCESS or a FAILURE?
Will the words of one of the people confirm that “In Ireland, you can not trust ANY lawyer”?

Unfortunately we are one of the people happy that 2018 finally ended.
We’re smarter this year.
Painfully smarter.

But are we smart enough, determined enough to lead to positive ending in 2019?

Highly recommended

Do you want to get another chance in life? In 2019? – What will you do then?

How often we would want to repeat something?
Maybe the second time we would act better, more mature, definitely different.

However most of the time we don’t get the second chance.
It’s HERE and NOW.
Nothing in life will happen again.
“The train is gone”.
If we had some chance, it just gone away now, and we’re late.
There’s no use in blaming yourself AFTER.

But there are situations…
Rarely…
Very rarely…
That something can be fixed…
It won’t be the same…
But…

Can remorse be calmed?
…That we didn’t do everything, when there was proper time…
…That we lacked something… maybe courage…
…Maybe we wanted to stick to the sidelines…
…Maybe we counted for the case to end without our participation…
…Maybe we don’t have only clean pages in our life and we fear, that someone will suddenly get them out…
…Maybe…

What will you do when you get the second chance?
How will you act?
Will the second time be the same?

HOW WILL YOU ACT WHEN MARTHA’S CASE WILL BE RESUBMITTED BEFORE THE COURT?
WILL YOU BE WILLING TO HELP WITH NEW TESTIMONIES?

Next “train” will go for the same destination.
Will you get on board this time?
Give us a sign if you want a “ticket”.

“If someone really wants to help – will find a way.
If someone doesn’t want to help – will always find an excuse”

What will you choose?
Will you help Martha NOW?

“Who was he for me?… He tried to tell me with whom I can or I shouldn’t talk at work” – fifteenth fragment of Martha’s book

I’ve noticed that change already when I bought a car, and I could be independent. Asking about who I was talking to on a break. To who I gave a ride or with who I was returning. It was becoming more bold on his side with every month. He tried to tell me with whom I can or I shouldn’t talk at work. So I started to lightly explain to him, that I don’t need his advice, and that I take care of everything myself perfectly. But the situation grew much more serious.

Do you live in Ireland and suspect that Irish GARDA violated Your rights? – Please: HELP Irish GARDA

If you live in Ireland and you suspect that Irish Garda
– commited a crime against you
– violated your privacy
– illegally invigilates, follows or eavesdrops you
do not ignore it.
Report it.
File your complaint to Garda Ombudsman.
It’s an institution completely independent from police service, financed by Irish Government.

We publish a link to a website of Garda Ombudsman, where you can find proper form, and information about this institution and way of proceeding.
Information is available in several languages, including Polish:
https://www.gardaombudsman.ie/make-a-complaint/submit-a-complaint/

If you’re suspecting that the interest of Garda in you may be because of your interest in case of Martha Herda, please additionally inform us about this.

Irish law, “procedural” law ensures clarity and general accessibility of all information regarding the cases that have already taken place.
No information can be secret.
If at some stage of inquiry or interest in Martha’s case, someone will forbid you access to such information – please: let us know.
Please note WHO forbid you this, and ask for a justification (preferably in writing).7

In majority Irish GARDA deserves credit for dangerous work they do responsibly.
But everywhere various single persons happen.
Please be careful.
You can never know what someone wanting to cover his or hers mistakes is capable of.

Please: DO NOT TRIFLE even a single incident.
Take care of safety of you and others.
If you have reasonable suspicions, that your rights were violated by Irish GARDA – HELP, help Irish GARDA respect your Rights.

VERY IMPORTANT VIDEO BY GROMIEC (in Polish language) – This is what is happening in Ireland – Truth will come out

VERY IMPORTANT VIDEO BY GROMIEC

 

 

 

 

Source: https://www.facebook.com/1014670302012500/videos/300372813868468/

Alternatives to Violence Project Chritmas Dinner without women of Dochas Centre – Why?

Some events are exceptionally difficult to understand for us.
We don’t understand the unexpected lack of information from Mrs Governor to the Prison Service, regarding passes for four women from Dochas Centre.
Was this a change of decision or an oversight?
We probably should ask Mrs Governor Mary O’Connor herself.
Why?
Can you really deal with people like that?
Maybe we don’t understand something?

Do you understand? Explain:

Why Mrs Governor Mary O’Connor didn’t issue a disposition in the matter of appointed Christmas Dinner for four women of Dochas Centre?

Why do you think this happened? Select and vote (you can chose one option or enter your own, short)
1 vote · 1 answer
Vote

Was there any word of apology or explanation on the part of Mrs Governor on Monday, December 10?
What for?
Nothing.
Like if nothing happened on Sunday.
Can one feel good about this?

Such situations are exceptionally unpleasant for others in the first moment.
We are very glad, that Martha is already able to cope with that.

Martha remains human and she acts like a human, even if everyone around forgets that they are humans.
Neither Martha, nor her family expect anything good of Ireland.
They don’t expect because they don’t want to be disappointed, but sometimes goodness comes…
Because there is something good in everyone…
We patiently wait until Martha’s goodness will break Irish persistence…

Special arrival of Martha’s friend – Kasia – two short visits

Katarzyna Błaszczyk, a friend of Martha, planned a special arrival to Ireland. She wanted to visit Martha very much.
She didn’t see her for so long.
She arrived on Friday, November 23.
She had little time. Straight from the ariport she was in a hurry to visit Martha.
After half an hour one of the officers wanted to make Kasia leave.
But courageous Polish girl didn’t let him.
She didn’t fly from Poland for this.
She informed the officer, that a visit from Poland is treated as a Special Visit.
Kasia is exceptionally outspoken, direct and firm.

And later, on Saturday, one more short visit, and return to Poland.
She couldn’t even stay for another visit, because she had her return flight to Poland.

Kasia recorded a short video with her phone. Thank yu for sharing it with us.
Tired after the travel via planes and busses Kasia runs to visit Martha…

Thank you very much for this sacrifice and specially visiting Martha.
Martha was very, very glad and happy…
Thank you.