Women remember best those flowers which they didn’t get – No flower… just one candy and back to the cell… – International Women’s Day in Dochas Centre in Dublin

International Women’s Day in Dochas Centre in Dublin, Ireland…
It’s next Women’s Day for Martha spent in prison…
Every time something different…

And now?
How did March 8, 2019, look like in Dochas Centre in Dublin, Ireland?

Short meeting in the gym…
…Women sang 4 songs…
…got one chocolate candy each and… back to the cell…

Some women in Dochas Centre was counting for something, and got nothing…
Including Martha.
She hoped at least for some flower…

Romantic and accustomed to some values and traditions, Martha made herself hearts from the modelling clay, and put them in her cell…

 

“I wish for Every Woman the eternal beauty in the heart…”

“I wish for all Women the eternal beauty in the heart
and for life to bloom colourfully.
That every woman could feel safe, cared for and loved…
…appreciated and fulfilled…”

A special phone, special memory …

Gifts made by Marta for her sister’s children

“I will be grateful to you till the end of my life, and I will do everything for our family to be always strong and loving…”

My beloved, I want to thank You for your kind hearts. That you are with me and you give me your support. I miss You so much every day, but I am happy that I have someone I can miss. That 6 minutes of phone call every day for me is like a dessert after dinner 😉 I am very lucky that I have such love and that I have You. Some women here don’t have that and it’s very hard for them, so I understand their behavior. Because of You giving me so much strength, I can pass it to some of the women here.
I know how much sacrifice and torment all of this costs You, I can’t even imagine how can I repay you for such kindness. I will be grateful to you till the end of my life, and I will do everything for our family to be always strong and loving. It’s my greatest treasure. You and our close ones. What’s more important? For me the most important is that we can hear each other, see each other, touch. And someday we will do this aaaall together.
And this thought, thanks to You, helps me to survive everything here. Nothing more is important. Do not worry, I want you to be proud of me, and I will be strong!
Because I love life, always thanks to You, it doesn’t matter what it is, but I’m not alone in it.

Thank You!

Love You!

“I wish for you and your close ones…”

We have somewhat foreseen the problems with sending Martha’s wishes for the family and people close.
Simply, after those few years we don’t expect anything good from Irish prison Service.
(Of course if something good will happen, we will acknowledge that and we will thank for it)

Foreseeing it, we’ve asked Martha to make a list of people to which she sends letters, right after sending.
Now we publish Martha’s list.

Magda… / Władysław..
Trevor and Sue / Dora…(Florida)
Aunt Marysia with Family
The Frog with the Family/ Magda…
Mum and Krzyś with family + …
Dad + Renata / Łacuś and Emilia
Paddy / Beata Pytel
A card and a surprise to you.
Daniel’s Mum and Buśka’s Family
Martyna Aftyka / Marcin Gromiec
Krysia / Siobhan (…)
Jennifer (the lady who was here)
Aśka + Family (Daniel Buśka’s sister)

Jagoda and Radek(friends from France)
Tomasz… Dagmara
Kaśka … and Daniel Buśka
Mariusz / Alicja… (postcard)
Rafał 2x
David (…)
Konrad Łakomy (… from Lublin)
Agnieszka…

Maciej …
Bernadett (the lady who was here)
Aurela

“Please tell Everyone, that I remember about them…”

On Wednesday, December 12, 2018, Marta gave the Irish prison service to send  postcards with wishes.
Various, individual wishes.
Even for the people who do not celebrate Christmas.
Postcards for thirty five people and their families.

We didn’t update the “Correspondence” link with this information.
We wanted it to be a surprise for the people who were meant to receive the postcards.
And so we waited, waited…
We were calm, but Martha was nervous…
She was nervous about that someone could think that she forgot about him or her…

“Please tell Everyone, that I remember about them…”

Currently, after over two months, the correspondence starts to arrive also to Poland.
What are the stamp dates?
February 8 and February 11, 2019.

Where was this correspondence between December 12, 2018, and February 8 or 11, 2019?
For two months…
Was it in Dochas Centre prison in Dublin in Ireland, all this time?
Did translating it take so much time?

Irish prison service has time…
Martha was sentenced for lifetime imprisonment, what difference does it make for Irish prison service, will the correspondence be sent today, in two months, or in two years…
With such level of spite from Irish prison service, maybe we should be happy that Martha’s correspondence was sent at all…
Maybe we should be thanking even for delayed humane impulses…
Maybe

“I wish TRUE AND SINCERE LOVE to Everyone”

“I wish TRUE AND SINCERE LOVE to Everyone”
– all Martha.

After a joyful visit from one of friends.
After hearing very good news from the freedom.
Happy with the support of many good-hearted people.
Ready to keep fighting for her freeedom.
She makes a special phone call on evening…
… she sends special wishes coming from her heart…
…she remembers about everyone…
…she remembers about special days…

They’ve made it! – Huge success of Irish prison service in Dochas Centre in Dublin!

Yes!
They’ve made it!
We have already doubted if it will be possible.
Martha intervened twice.
Twice she talked to two Governors.
We were afraid that this will be to much to handle for Irish prison service in Dochas Centre in Dublin.
Maybe it will be too difficult.
Maybe it will be too complicated.
Maybe it will require too much effort.

And finally… There it is!
They’ve made it!
The Impossible became Possible!
…Only in the moment, when everyone lost their hope.

Maybe this was a tough inner struggle.
To do, or NOT to do?

After… 2 months…
There’s a surprise…
Long after the Christmas and after New Year…
Next holiday soon…

And Irish prison service had finally dealt with it and did it…

… IT SENT THE MARTHA’S POSTARDS FROM THE LAST YEAR…
…from December 12, 2018…

We don’t know yet if all of them…
But we have signals from Ireland, that three people have already received them…
So there it is!
It started!
Only 32 more postcards sent by Martha on mid December 2018.

GREAT SUCCESS OF IRISH PRISON SERVICE IN DOCHAS CENTRE IN DUBLIN!

Difficult meeting of Martha “with PAST” – …for the FUTURE?

December was promising to be very emotional for Martha.
There were supposed to be two Christmas meetings: 1. Alternatives to Violence Project Chritmas Dinner (it was held without Martha’s participation) and 2. Annual dinner for “lifers” with their closest ones.
Additionally Martha made some changes to her visitors list.
Temporarily (until end of January 2019) she removed three people from the list to make place for new 3 people, who asked for possibility to meet Martha.
First is Marcin Gromiec (we have published the relations from the meeting with Martha and the “plight before and after”)
Next two people are Martha’s former friends: Anna and Katarzyna.
Martha was wondering if she should consent to their visit.
She wondered if she is ready.
Many years had passed… But wounds remain…
After consulting the family, Martha agreed to those visits.

Everyone is making mistakes, more or less painful.
But if someone reaches with initiative – then everyone deserves a chance…

On Saturday, January 5, 2019, at 3 p.m., there was a meeting after many years.
Martha was visited by her old friend – Anna (earlier Martha received a letter from Anna).
It was a difficult meeting.
It began with welcome and with words “I’m sorry” from the mouth of old friend.
Those words, “I’m sorry”, fell about three times.
It was an honest talk. Face to face…
Calm exchange of views, and talking about everything that hurt before and still hurts.
Martha was calm during the talk.
She saw, that it is hard for an old friend.
It wasn’t easy for Martha also.
Maybe this wasn’t making it easy talk for each other, but it’s important, that such meeting and such talk even happened.
… it will be easier for everyone…
… and we will see what will happen next…

We thank for that meeting…
“No one is without a sin”, but the worst thing is holding to wrong behavior.
We thank for “breaking”,  for coming, for overcoming own fears.
Such action needed much strength.
We notice that and we appreciate.
Maybe some role had Martha’s old friend’s family in this…
Maybe a change happened…
It’s possible, that earlier advice of the family to not step forward, were replaced by advice like “It shouldn’t be this way”…
Maybe it’s an example, that you need only one person to break something, bu to fix it – many people are needed…

Of course one visit will not wipe out many things and many years…
Through these years Martha’s true friends could do very much…
…and they are real support for Martha…
But that’s a start…
And a pattern in some way…
There are many, many more people who should come…
Maybe it’s not about coming itself, but about an appropriate action…
…or a change of previous actions…
…or starting to act at all, when one stood on the sidelines…

Will you change in time?
Will you make it to tell that to Martha?
Will you make it to visit Martha while she’s still in Ireland?
How many years do you need?…

“It went without tears … We did not wish for a Merry Christmas, because it’s a bit out of place …” – Annual dinner in prison for “lifers” – Marta is still discriminated against

On Wednesday, December 12, at the Dochas Center prison, an annual meeting was held for women serving life sentences (“lifers”).
For each woman imprisoned in such cases, it was an opportunity to meet the three closest people. A common dinner, a longer conversation, a nice time.
Until three hours of sight. From 13 to 16.

At several tables there was a nice and cordial atmosphere.
The friends of Krysia, Mariusz and Rafał came to meet with Marta this year.
Friends who live in Ireland.
Everyone, including Marta, are well dressed.
Unfortunately, nobody from the family came from Poland.
That was agreed with Marta.

What was different from last year?
Better food.
And Mrs. Governor Mary O’Connor exceptionally kind.
(The same Mrs. Governor, who broke the 4 Sunday prisoners 3 days earlier without spending a pass on the Altenatives to the Violence Project Christmas Dinner)
Mrs. Governor was very nice.
She sat down at each table for a moment and talked to everyone for a moment.

Marta thanked Mrs. Governor Mary O’Connor for the very good preparation of a special dinner and for the fact that she could have been at this special dinner.

And what has not changed?
… Discrimination of Marta …
Everyone could give presents to their loved ones …
Everyone … just not Marta …
Friends did not expect anything from Marta.
But this situation is unpleasant for Marta herself.
She likes to share with others, she likes to give gifts to others …
Only after a symbolic little thing for friends …
Unfortunately…

The meeting was very briefly commented by one of the participants, one of Marta’s friends – Mariusz (in Polish language):